How do I live and move on in life as an incel?

As the title suggests and it might sound awful but hear me out. I am not here to spread hate nor get piity neither am I hateful. I have done the mental work of accepting this is who I am.

Now onto the main part how do I convince my family and quite frankly my little social surrounding that I have that I am not an awful but unfortunate incel at the moment and probably will be for good, how do I live a near normal life without it being my main identity while also being realistic cause it is going to be part of me.

I tried to find their forum or website to join them someone told me it's really bad and not to look into it. But then again what should I do. Thanks