Is writing really subjective?

I am dyslexic and when it comes to English basic comprehension has always been my strong suit.

More recently I did post grad studies and found the process of writing essays, pretty traumatic.

I’m now in a subject matter expert level role at work where work wants me to write more and even with the help of AI I still get so much feedback about my writing.

To me the feedback I get feels very subjective.
How they want me to write things feels like a foreign way of saying what I want to communicate.

They say things like - remove the emotive language, and I’m sitting there thinking - there is no emotive language.

Basically my confidence is at an all time low.

I’ve asked for help in the past and tutors have come in to make things “better”. They will say things like - well you won’t write it like this! I sit there thinking, why? I would, I obviously would, because I did, and you are now critiquing it.

I feel like I am patiently waiting for something to click. But I don’t know what that something is.
Has anyone else struggled with this and has any advice?