Is any other mom the "bad one" in the relationship?

I see so many posts about how husbands are incompetent, do any other moms feel like they're the incompetent one? For example, I'm struggling so bad to feed my one year old, my husband swoops in and works his magic, negotiating with our little guy "okay eat one piece of chicken and you get one grape" giving him little pieces of his favorites and little pieces of stuff he was screaming at, and voila, by a miracle my baby starts eating. Or how my child is screaming at me and I have no idea what to do, and my husband says "why don't we go into the bedroom and watch a movie" and voila that's what my child needed was dim lights, soft blankets, cuddles, and a movie. I feel so clueless oftentimes. I'm the type of person that needs things spelled out for me exactly, so I struggle to interpret my child's screaming. And yes my husband has experience previously with children, this is my first time ever. But I'm still so amazed by how smooth and graceful he is. And when I was so severely ill, he was superdad and took over childcare for a week. Is anyone else's husband the "good one"?