Missing my son's hair appointment was the straw that broke me

I have been beyond overwhelmed for the last 2 months. I am being pulled in so many directions and my kids have conflicting needs that I can't meet. I don't have anyone to talk to about this so I'm whining to you all.

This week has been hell. I can't believe it's only Wednesday. My husband has been gone for work since Saturday and usually I don't mind the change of pace and love the actual alone time after the kids go to bed every night. But the timing of this trip is total shit (first week of summer vacation) and I've been put into a bind several times because of it.

My daughter's long term boyfriend is moving very very far away, just got on the plane today. He's been over constantly since school let out Friday. And I've been fine with that but it's been exhausting. Yesterday was really hard because we dropped him off for the last time and of course my daughter is heart broken. Even my youngest is heart broken because he likes the boyfriend and is sad we might not see him again. He was crying so hard about it the other night.

My AuDHD son is adjusting to the new schedule like shit. Every time someone else is with him and I'm away doing something else all hell breaks lose. I have to be hyperviligant constantly and it's exhausting. Every little thing is a fight.

My sister had been visiting from out of state. This is always hard because it reminds me of how fucked up and dysfunctional my family is and it makes me really sad. She's also very flies by the seat of her pants. She keeps asking when can I hang out and I give her our very very busy schedule this week and still won't make any advanced plans until last minute.

I have had *zero* time to breathe because there is also the next thing to be doing.

There's been so many appointments and plans this week. Taking the kids, my sister and the daughters boyfriend to an amusement/water park for one last hurrah. Just today my son had swim lessons, speech therapy, and a hair cut appointment. And then I had to make an urgent appointment for my daughter because she was showing what I thought were signs of strep or tonsilitis. Turns out it was just a fucking tonsil stone.

I had my mom come over and watch my son while I took my daughter to the doctor and grocery shopped after because I hadn't had a chance to go grocery shopping. During this time my sister shows up at my house with no warning. My mom and my sister do not get alone. So I had to rush home.

And then the cherry on the shit sundae. My son's hair appointment was what I thought was 6. I had a lovely little evening planned with dinner and ice cream in the area of the little town the hair dresser was in. I get son there and the hair dresser is pissed off. Because it turns out my son's appointment was at 5:45. She has a 6:00 so can't do his hair. This is horrible because this lady is booked out for months at a time because she's really good. So