I feel my sexuality messed up my freindship

So a few months ago i met another girl from same country as me. I reached out and asked if we could hang out. We called everyday, even fell asleep on a phone call once. Im a lesbian woman and i try my best to ensure that i'm not being too close in freindships, super sensitive to how people change towards me. After a while, she started to grow distant. I dont expect that she will call me everyday, but i did wish we would catch up once in a while. I always did most of the calling and checking in. There was a role I encouraged her to apply for and negitiate her salary for, when she had a meeting scheduled and got the role and really good pay (even better than we thought she would get) she didnt inform me to tell me, I knew because I asked. I felt hurt that something so nice, I wasnt updated to celebrate with her. I asked if she could try to plan stuff for us to do occassioally, i did most of the planning for events and she didnt want to. She said she just doesnt plan stuff and refuses to do so. She also says she doesnt call her other freind at all, infact they dont speak for weeks and her freind is okay.

Over time, When i call her, she is very withdrawn. She is short with me. I sometimes ask how work is, how life is and she is super brief. She would say she called to check in and then maybe a few minutes into the call or as soon as she calls she says i am going to leave the call soon. I tried to talk to her about it, but she said i am expecting her to act a certain way when we talk. I did think about this and felt bad, but now i do feel like im not expecting her to show up extriverted but if you call me it would be nice to engage with me a little. Its so uncofmrtable if i talk for hrs and hrs and you are staring at me and barely contributing. Even when i ask about work, she says work is just work. its always so short like she doesnt care and is nonchalant about the call.

I started to annoy her a few weeks ago, when i would always ask if she was okay or mad at me. She was always quiet, short and brief with me, no effort to engage, no enthusiasm. I worried if she was depressed, if she felt she couldnt talk to me about something. We had a really huge fight where she said i dont know how it feels to be on the receiving end of being asked if you are okay? if you are mad at someone and theres nothing wrong. She said i constantly ask her if shes okay or mad at me but she shows up like she is in every single call to the point i feel like a nuisance, and i only feel i should ask. She doesnt show enthusiasm to hang out, all the summer activities we planned in the winter she isnt down to do them. I offered for us to work together since shes constantly working, she refused. We used to work together all the time on zoom. She said she didnt want to spend money to hang out but i offered lets watch a movie at my place? she declined.

on social media, she is now posting stuff about freindships and people not being right for you, she posts stuff about discipline and being focused too. I feel awful that im a bad freind. But its so hard to ignore that there clearly is a distance. She told me sometimes thinks twice about calling me because i will ask her if she would like to plan a hangout or ill keep asking if shes okay, its hard not to do this because i repeatedly feel like a nuisance to her.

Earlier on, we had conversations about sexuality. We once had a play fight once, and she said she didnt like that i was touching her and it brings certain feelings to her. she also has said she mistakenly kissed a girl before. and people always think shes gay. I feel like maybe my sexuality could be a factor. she said im making her uncomfortable too. but i didnt know why or how.