Tinder et al

Dating

I have a question - I guess that is the point of this page...

This is going to sound conceited but I ask because I don't have a particularly high opinion of myself above anyone else.

Do men on dating apps like almost every single female without thought? I get that it increases the chance of a match, but it seems a little extreme.

I joined Tinder last night. I don't even know why. Just poking my head in I guess to see what is there. I am not unattractive but neither am I a surprising beauty. Just average. I am 40. I have 2 kids. I have a twisted sense of humour. I am a bit weird. All of this is apparent from my profile. I am not instantly desirably to a majority of men. Surprisingly, only one message from a guy I liked that said "wanna fuck" as an opening line. I have only liked a bare few, and the other messages have been normal and respectful and playful. But...

In less than 24 hours I have over 1000 likes. And from every type of man, including those in their 20s who I am sure are not remotely interested in a 40 year old single mother. Or men whose profiles identify specifically that they do not want someone like me.

I'm actually overwhelmed now, and getting rid of it. I know guys complain only the top whatever percentage of men find someone on dating apps, but this is because I cannot go through 1000 profiles and cull the ones who clearly wont like me, to find the ones who potentially might... I imagine young attractive girls would get ten times this? They wouldn't be able to find anyone in that shambles.

Do guys actually look at profiles on these things, or just bulk swipe right?

Posted Jun 4, 2026, 12:54 AM UTC

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