My boss agreed with my bullies during a meeting and then privately to me that it was a management tactic to set a trap for them..?

Workplace Issue

Ive been working there for a few months. We're quick a big company with multiple locations. Due to a lot of sickness the newcomers constantly got scheduled on different locations instead of the one they applicated for. It became so annoying that i made a complaint and for me personally it got fixed.

Immediately when the newcomers came the vets started kind of interrogating us about what type of contract we got, what we got promised and they complained how we wear getting hours that got promised to other people. Or some of their friends.

This escalated so badly in my opinion that even when one of the newcomers forgot to label the fridge a few times (they see multiple locations constantly and not every location has the same rules) they would post in our groupchat about it and state ''this is what happens when newcomers work alone, and nothing against them but we just need our hours back cause its not nice to work like this anymore''.

Because im the only newcomer that works with them every single day i hear these things a lot and i get told these things a lot etc. And one day i made the mistake of dividing daily tasks with a newcomer that eventually didnt do her part and then blamed me when the vets came. Well.. they were so angry that they send a whole paragraph in the chat again and now stated they were making a formal complaint and asking for a teammeeting with our boss because they were tired of this. Mind you this was about unloading a dishwasher. I apologized, said i think our other co worker might have forgotten her task and we'll unload it the next day cause were both responsible. She got mad and said i was blaming her, she was blaming me and we are in a weird competition to be chosen by the vets? And that we also didnt label the fridge correctly, I said im sorry again, told her i did label it correctly and showed her my handwritting on the labelling and said maybe i can put up a sticker w ''label like this (instructions) for all the newcomers and send a message in the group app to remind them? She said i think its best if i do that cause when you guys do that there will be a different reaction.

After months of hearing these things, being treated like this, and getting backlash when trying to bring in solutions i started to feel sick before going to work, i would get like dread to label the fridge, hyper fixated on not making mistakes.

I then talked to my boss about these things and he said this group of people bully newcomers constantly, he keeps losing people because of them but he has prove from parents etc that they were scoring horribly before the newcomers even came. That he thinks me feeling safe is important, during the meeting he will come with prove and really stick up for me and this will end. He is tired of them. The meeting came, they all just mentioned what went wrong due to newcomers, how we blamed eachother xyz. Not naming their behaviors. At the end they said yeah and we would like newcomers to participate more in helping us think about ideas and with the children instead of being passive. And i said maybe then we could try and really listen and accept the suggestions that are being brought in.

The whole vet group AND my boss flipped the script on me? Saying yeah but you feel excluded so fast, stop worrying about little things xyz. When it was done my boss came up to me in front of them and said ''See i told you everyone likes you, just stop thinking those things''.

I broke and wanted to go home. He then told one of the vets hey she doesnt feel safe with y'all pls help her. He later apologized to me after i spoke to a coach about this and layed everything on the table. He said he was sorry it came across to me like that but it was a management tactic to set a trap for them. He has been setting traps for them for years already, i just dont understand, i have to be patient and keep this between us, xyz.

But the next day when i came to work things got 100% worse. They were icing me out, asking others but do you feel safe, do you agree with her? But no one spoke to me about it in a sense. Then when i went to them to say hey im gonna call in sick i really dont feel good they said pls lets not talk about the problems, change the subject. I said im following the rules and informing y'all that you will be missing one person, before i could even finish they said why do you keep going? I said i dont wanna be involved in the problems?

I just went home.

I dont know what to do anymore..?

Posted Jun 4, 2026, 12:57 AM UTC

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