Are romantic relationships possible with BPD

I’m 30F and have had serious relationships that were toxic before I was medicated and regularly going to therapy. But lately I’ve been feeling hopeless. I have been single for 4 years. I want nothing more than to fall in love and be able to have a safe space with a partner. But any time I even tell them I have BPD it often gets taken the wrong way and it sends me into an identity crisis. Are there people with happy and healthy long term relationships. Or am I mentally better alone.