Okay I'm mad AF... but I honestly don't know what to do.

Okay.... so there are several issues within one issue. My son has a gf, it's his first "ship" they are in middle school. WELL, the gf has a friend who is disrespectful imo. I've raised my son to be a child- he plays Legos and video games and is very much a young teen and not a young teen trying to be an adult. Cursing is absolutely forbidden in my household. My son is super naive; he talks with the phone on speaker and I hear their conversations. I've been listening without intervening for a few weeks but ONE DAY she gets on the phone cursing up a storm, so I addressed it with him. The next day they are all on the phone together and she starts again, only this time my mother is in the room. I finally lost my shit- she pays NO bills she has no reason to curse at all. I went OFF. I told my son if she did it again, he was to immediately hang up. Well fast forward a week or so, and the little girl is on the phone upset that the guy that she likes doesn't like her and she wants to delete herself. Both my son and the gf are like we dont play like that, are you being serious. The gf is pretty much like if you are serious, we need to have a conversation in private. She apparently wasn’t serious just upset about the guy she likes not liking her. This is issue 1.

Earlier this week my sister randomly pops over the house with her sons and we're all hanging out (mind you they are much older High School and adult age) so the adults (me, my sister, her oldest) break away to talk while the boys are playing video games. Her oldest asked if my son had talked to me yet. I was confused and asked what. He showed me text messages where my son told him that the same girl I went off on called him the N-word with the hard R three times and told another little boy to go back to Africa. In the texts he stated that he and the gf had planned on talking to the school dean. After they leave, I talked to my son to see if he would tell me what happened. He didn't. Mind you since the initial discussion, I've increased talking to him about making boundaries with people and how I'm always there for him. Nonetheless he says nothing. This is issue 2.

Two days later, we (my son and I) are hanging out at the gf's place. I am with the adults, and they are hanging out together. Just as we were about to leave, I show the mom the text messages my son sent his big cousin and told her I was concerned. She then proceeds to tell me about how she found out that morning that the girl found a way to hack into her Chat GPT account and was taking pictures of the boy she likes and pictures of herself and having chat mesh them together in poses (i.e. the boy holding her waist). Then she showed me that she took a picture of my son and the gf and did the same thing. My immediate response was she's a big weirdo and I want pictures of what she did. This is issue 3.

I'm pissed at this point. SO, I talked to my boyfriend about the situation because I needed to vent and I needed to brainstorm what to do. His reply to me was .... It’s just words. I don't see why you all get so upset about words... I Lost my shit and got off the phone. This is issue 4

I then call my best friend and sister, and we all have the same reaction and it's pretty much I need to talk to the school because this could mean trouble for any other kid she decides she wants to degrade and also dangerous because she's engineering photos. Tomorrow is Friday- I'm still in full rage and know that I can't talk to people when I'm like this so I haven't been to the school yet, but I plan on taking care of this next week (yes, the kids are still in school here, yes- it's ridiculous).

I don't know if I should file a police report, but I absolutely do not want my son caught up in this bs with this little girl. Now I’m questioning the friendship between the gf and her and if my son is safe. I don't know where to begin fixing this for him.