His new fiancé

Well, it happened. I was doing pretty good, healing, progressing, having fun…in spite of my ex fiance causing me all kinds of grief (financially, work-wise, property-wise, etc.).

In spite of him stealing tens of thousands of dollars worth of personal belongings from me, I’ve been doing pretty damned good.

Then I saw his new woman on social media. She’s not a supermodel or anything, just a regular (older) woman. No big deal - didn’t care.

Then I heard he’s engaged to her. Then I heard he used my engagement ring for her.

I feel weird about it. Some people said I should have kept back when we broke up, but I didn’t want anything at all that reminded me of him and his blatant lies and manipulation.

I think I feel weird because we still have all this property stuff to sort through, and he used the engagement ring he bought for me. Part of me wonders if he gave me the ring he used for some other woman (because how would I know?).

Grief isn’t linear. It comes from various places and memories at various moments.

I didn’t cry or anything - I just feel really odd.

Part of me is glad he has a new obsession, a new woman to f* over and leave. Part of me feels bad for her. But only for about a second.

And part of me knows they were together before he ended things (I know he was cheating, so I’m sure it’s the same woman).

Life is strange. I wasn’t even trying to find info on him (or them) and it came to me through other people out of nowhere. “Hey, did you hear?” and “Hey! Check out her pictures!”

Has anyone else had this happen? Is there any advice outside of “just keep healing,” that you can give for not feeling so weird?

I wish I had a label for why this is doing to me but I’m not sure what to call it other than grief.