Too straight for the gays, too gay for the straights?

I feel like I don’t find myself in any category, I’m 21M and I’ve struggled to find a partner, girls usually tell me I’m such a nice guy and very warm and soft, but too soft to be anything else than a friend. But then I turn to the gays but I feel almost like I give heterosexual vibes, I’m not really that deep into the lgbt community and I’m not a very stereotypical bisexual guy, and I just feel like they won’t even look at me or I feel out of place with them.

Kinda hard to explain what I feel but, am I delusional or does anyone feel the same