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BroodsBane

I met a girl 25 days ago and she wants to move in together...

This story isn't a bad one, I (20M) just have no clue what to make of it all. Basically, I went on a 2 week camping trip for college and made really good friends while I was out there (If anyone else here did too and thinks this sounds familiar please click off for two of your friend's privacy :D and please don't pick me to put in any Youtube videos or anything :D). One of them is a girl (20F). For the first half of the trip I honestly thought that she didn't like me and felt uncomfortable around me but we both shared the mutual friends so I kind of figured she just tolerated me. Almost every night of the trip we all sat in a circle playing games, telling stories, and generally just venting about our lives. So, to put it simply, we all got really close really quickly. Fast forward to a couple of hang outs back home after the trip and she brings up how she wants to move out of her place and asked if I wanted to be her roommate and move in with each other (I also stated that I wanted to move out of my apartment building for a better one). I was really surprised by this because it kind of came out of nowhere and we're definitely the least connected members of the group at this point (Although, we are definitely more emotionally close than me and even my closest friends outside the group). Now, here's the point that I get stuck on, neither of us are romantically interested in each other and even pinky promised that if we did move in together not to date AND she was excited to play match maker with me and some of her friends. So, its not like shes coming onto me unless shes playing incredibly hard to get yk (I definitely don't man)? I don't really know what to make of it all because 1. I've never made such close friends so quickly, 2. I've never really had super close Platonic Female Friends, and 3. I guess its just strange that she jumped to that so quickly. Although we've been in some of the same classes in the past two years, we've never talked until the trip and even then, its only been 25 days that we "met" on the trip. Idk, I know that in the past month I at least have come to trust and adore her (PLATONICALLY) but to me I find it hard to believe that she has gained the same trust and adoration in me (especially given her past with men and definitely some mental stuff of my own). I guess that's the core of this issue but Idk, I also acknowledge that she is her own person and has the right and ability to make her own judgement calls. I just find myself worrying she might be taking it too quick, what do you think I should do with it all?

Posted Jun 5, 2026, 4:58 AM UTC

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