Mutual breakup 3 weeks ago, trying to stay friends — struggling

The contact situation

We've kept things pretty low contact since the split. Early on we hung out a couple times (just talking, no intimacy) and had some phone calls, but that phase has passed. Now it's mostly just occasional texts — memes here and there, or stuff our coach sends us — nothing deep. No more calls, no more hanging out outside the gym.

In the beginning we were both reaching out more than we should have been. Over time that naturally faded — she stopped reaching out as much and honestly so did I, and that's actually helped a lot with the healing process.

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The gym situation

Here's the tricky part — we both train at the same gym and neither of us wants to leave. Our coach and the friend group there mean a lot to both of us, so leaving isn't really an option. I train there 3-4 times a week, so we do see each other regularly. When we do, we keep it respectful and honestly, as much as I hate to admit it, the conversations are always good — which sometimes makes it harder because it reminds me of what we had.

How we handle the relationship topic

We generally avoid bringing up the relationship or the past when we talk. Sometimes experiences or memories come up naturally in conversation, but we don't go deep into it. At this point neither of us really knows what we want, so we're both just trying to sit with our emotions and think things through without forcing anything.

I'll also say — I think she leans a bit avoidant, which plays into how she handles things. She was reaching out more at first and then gradually pulled back. On my end, I realized I was being a bit too responsive and borderline pushy early on, so I pulled back too. In a weird way it balanced out and we've both settled into a healthier distance.

Why we broke up

The relationship had a lot of problems from the start, mostly around communication but other things too. We were both going through really stressful periods in our lives and just couldn't show up for each other the way we needed to. The beginning was so exhausting that it basically destroyed our foundation before we ever really built one. It was a mutual decision and we both knew it was the right call.

Where I'm at

I genuinely am doing better and slowly moving on. But every time we talk or see each other, there's this small part of me that gets hit with the reminder that we're not together anymore. We're trying to stay friends and it mostly works, but some days it's harder than others.

It's only been 3 weeks, I know that's still fresh. But I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to handle this situation — the shared gym, the low contact friendship, the uncertainty on both sides.

What should I do?