I'm a guy in my late 20s, and I've always been the quiet, stay-at-home type.

When I was younger, talking to people felt almost impossible. I couldn't start conversations with strangers, and even with people I knew, I often didn't know what to say. Small talk still feels awkward to me.

Things have improved over the last few years. I can communicate much better now, and if the topic is something I know well—programming, computers, technology—I can talk for hours or even speak in front of a crowd without much trouble. But once the conversation moves to everyday topics, I quickly run out of things to say.

I graduated in Computer Science this year, but I've been working in software development for about six years already, even before I started university. The funny thing is that I've never really felt like I was working. I genuinely enjoy programming. Most people complain about work; I often lose track of time because I'm too focused on building or learning something.

The strange part is that I do feel lonely sometimes—but usually only when I'm not busy. When I'm coding, learning, or working on a project, I'm completely fine. The loneliness tends to appear during quiet moments.

At the same time, I don't really have a strong desire to socialize. A big part of that is that I rarely meet people who think the way I do. Even when I go out with friends or former classmates, I often feel disconnected from what everyone else enjoys.

For example, when we visit a beautiful place, many of them want to spend most of the time taking photos, posting stories, and chatting. There's nothing wrong with that, but it doesn't do much for me. I'd rather sit quietly, enjoy the scenery, listen to the sounds around me, and experience the moment itself. I'd rather keep the memory in my mind than in my phone gallery.

This difference sometimes makes me feel like I'm living on a different wavelength from most people around me. I don't hate socializing, and I don't think I'm better than anyone else. I just seem to enjoy different things.

Sometimes I wonder if I've become too comfortable being alone. I rarely feel bored when I'm working on something meaningful, but I also feel like I'm missing a connection with people who share a similar mindset.

Has anyone else experienced this? Feeling lonely, but not necessarily wanting more social interaction because you rarely find people you truly connect with?

Anyone else feel comfortable everywhere except in social situations?