55 [M4F] #Minnesota - When I break into you is the pain something new

I consider myself unconventional, eclectic, thoughtful, curious, playful, and creative with an alternative aesthetic. I work in harm reduction during the day and write at night. I’m a fit, single, devoted cat dad with no human spawn, and a homeowner. I am into alternative and electronic music, classic and foreign films, traveling/road trips, building booty, felines, harm reduction work, writing, making music…

The relationship I’m looking for has a balance of kink and equal partnership. I am a sadistic but nurturing Dom looking for something long-term with a woman who identifies as a submissive masochist. I strongly prefer a woman who is fit, enjoys working out, and is between 25 and 38. Fitness and well-being are of the highest priority for myself and I want to share that with my partner. I also strive to take care of my mental health, whether it’s through meditation, reading, or therapy I prioritize taking care of my mental and emotional well-being.

D/s relationships offer a depth of intimacy that vanilla dynamics rarely reach — the level of trust required goes far beyond the bedroom, and that’s what draws me to them. I’m deeply turned on by power exchange, pain, and degradation, and I believe in the transformative potential of suffering when it’s shared with the right person. Im equally as cruel as I am tender and work with intention and enthusiasm to meet your needs as you meet mine. I value safe, sane, consensual sex and am always respectful of limits. I’m also not into DDLG or taming brats.

My kink identity has crystallized relatively recently — not from lack of experience, but from finally understanding what I actually want at a deeper level. I’ve played extensively, but I’m now at a point where I’m ready to build a dynamic that lives at the center of a relationship rather than at the edges of one. I’m excited to build a dynamic with someone as equally fun and depraved as I am, a dynamic built together so both of our needs are genuinely met — so we can grow as individuals, lovers, and as Dom and sub.

While I do have specific preferences and needs I am open to exploring new territory together as well. I’d love to hear your ideas and fantasies, so please feel free to share.

Outside of kink I’m a very affectionate person and love showing my adoration to a worthy partner. Im romantic, love good conversations with someone who has real depth, cuddling, making out, and doing random things for my partner to show my affection.

Please be sure you know what your wants and needs are, your boundaries and limitations, and are able to communicate that. I place a high value on emotional intelligence, accountability, and the ability to communicate honestly and openly.

If you are interested I’d love to chat.