I (18F) am not sure if I should break up with my long distance boyfriend of two years (18M)?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now and we met on basically a teen dating app. He was very clear with his intentions of wanting to be with me and meeting up. We live around 3 hours from each other and first met up in London. This is the first time either of us had ever gone on a date and the first time I had met up with someone especially online. The second date a few weeks later, I went to his house and met his family and we kissed and went slightly further.

For the first few months of our relationship, he would beg me to call and treat me like a princess and shower me in attention, obviously which I loved. He has never come to my house because my dad would not permit me to date especially as a teenager because he wants me to prioritise my studies. We were going strong for a while and I was always excited to meet with him. Summer last year (2025) we tried to have sex, which didn’t work as it didn’t fit. Both disappointed and he said something along the lines of ‘it seems like you’re not even trying’ which highkey hurt me but I brushed it off.

We met like twice around October, always me going to his house. The train is around £60-65 every time and he’s never offered to cover it once or even split it with me. I’ve gone to his house around 6 times in the past 2 years and we’ve met in London a few times more.

For Christmas this year (2025), I lowkey went all out on his gifts making like a gift basket worth nearly £75 with items that he loves and I put a lot of thought into and crocheted his sister something. I know it was slightly excessive but gift giving is my love language and I like giving what I want to receive. He gave me a single item which couldn’t have been worth more than like £20 and based on something that he always gets me gifts from (an animated Disney film). Don’t get me wrong I do love it but it feels like he never puts thought into any gifts he gives me, it’s always the same thing different fonts. At said Christmas thingy, we played a game with his family and sisters boyfriend which I won and he said ‘you’re so smart idk why you’re with me when you could be with some like tall athlete’. He said this in front of his whole family which was insanely awkward and makes it seem like I’ve been putting him down (which I haven’t).

After that, we had a good few weeks then he started taking hours to reply so I was doing the same. Keep in mind I had talked to him about this beforehand saying I didn’t like it. Then my mum had a serious medical emergency in which I had to call the ambulance and I thought she was gonna die, I messaged him for some support and he took like 8 hours to reply. That was a breaking point for me so I asked him if he wanted to break up with me and he lowkey just said he didn’t know and maybe it would be for the best. We called and got over it somehow.

Now recently he’s started video calling me again, which he hasn’t in so long without me begging or heavily hinting at it. Every single time we call he suddenly is horny and is begging me for phone sex, which sucks because I genuinely enjoy just like talking and looking at his face. Today, we called and I said I wasn’t in the mood for sex and we barely got past a 30 minute call. These phone sex calls where he’s trying to butter me up to show him something usually average like over an hour and a half for context.

TLDR: We almost broke up once and we fixed it. Now he only video calls me if he wants phone sex and will end the call if I don’t give it to him