AIO about being upset about traveling for my 27F friends 27F bday?

I no longer live in my home state, but can drive home to visit. My friend’s birthday is this weekend and she really wanted me to be there. I told her I was possibly not coming because finances are tight and also it is a long travel just for a dinner. She said “well we’ll all hang out beforehand at my house and then have dinner I just really want you there”. She also just got engaged and wanted me to see the ring in person. So I spend the money to travel home ran a couple of errands with her yesterday, and then she dropped me off to my mom’s house, planning to see her today. She then cancels the hang out before the dinner and just wants everyone to show up at the restaurant. I’m upset because I spent money I really shouldn’t have in order to see her and make sure she felt celebrated, yet she spent most of the day with her other friends and I’ve been left just to see her for like a couple hours. It’s her birthday and I don’t care what she does. It’s the fact that I did this and have barely seen her. I wouldn’t have come if it were just for a dinner because of my financial state. Luckily there is an event I can go to with my mom tomorrow before leaving, so the weekend isn’t a total waste, but it’s still frustrating.

She also texted asking me if I wanted to go to the event with her other friends if my fiancé was coming so there would be an even number, but by the time I saw the text she said she found someone else to go and not to worry about it. Like I didn’t even get a chance to decide.

So, AIO?