Let’s not fetishize femsubs this pride

It’s almost a week in and I’m grossed out by how many “are femsubs even real hehe such magical unicorns" posts there are. Femsubs to Dommes are predominantly queer and trans women, there is no presumed societal power dynamic that you are flipping anymore. You are capable of fetishizing femsubs and using unicorn or manic pixie rhetoric when speaking about them is exactly that.

Femsubs can be creepy pathetic horny gooners like male subs. They can be mature, smart, respectful boring old businesswomen. It seems like people think a femsub = 20yr old twitter puppy gf that you don’t actually need to be dominant towards, which is a massive issue since it means you inherently show male subs more respect even if you “love femsubs sooo much” that you can’t be mean to them. I can’t imagine how uncomfortable femsubs must feel seeing themselves infantilized and gawked at, especially the ones who have inferiority based kinks as a considerable amount of subs do.

I’m a strong believer that straight and/or heteronormative Dommes prioritizing femsubs isn’t inherently fetishization, statistically sub men are far more likely to have bad intentions, same with men in kink spaces in general. But that doesn’t give you a right to (non consensually) dehumanize the women you fantasize about treating you better than your own subs.

Also girls, are you aware you’re incentivizing male subs to lie about being women or go the incel "transmaxxing" route for easy access to you. There are "femsubs" in the community that have told me they identify as such online solely for perks or as a kink. So, when you make a “I need a femsub to come suckle my teet" esque post remember that the femsub you hope comes crawling in ur dm’s might be a man jerking off to manipulating you. While the actual femsub’s see that post as a reminder to update their block lists this month.