My BPD mom is restricting my access to be able to talk to my dad with dementia, that she takes "care" of. It's the only control method she has left over me.

It really sucks because his dementia is progressing so quickly and I cannot talk to him or see him because of her. Because I stopped letting her abuse me mentally and emotionally. He is 76, she is 70. My dad has autism for context, and my mom ruined his life with six kids. He didn't want any kids.