AIO for feeling like my friend crossed boundaries with my husband?

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AIO for feeling like my friend crossed boundaries with my husband?
I (24F) am married to my husband (25M). I recently reconnected and tried to rebuild a friendship with a woman (24F) I grew up with in foster care. We were essentially foster sisters and also lived in a group home together for about 2 years.
Our past relationship has always been very complicated and at times toxic. We both hurt each other growing up, but after aging out of care we reconnected, forgave each other, and agreed to try rebuilding our friendship through a more mature and Christian perspective. We talked through our issues, set boundaries, and things were slowly improving.
For context, she had instability recently (lost her apartment due to a hoarding situation involving her son) and moved back in with our former foster mom. During that time we started talking more again. I’ve also experienced homelessness before, so some of her behavior during that period was triggering for me.

Important background that played into this
Even before the situation with my husband, there were concerns:
She had a pattern of involving herself with men who were in relationships. Two weeks before the “bike incident,” she was actively talking to a man who had a girlfriend. She knew about the girlfriend and still engaged with him.
She admitted she liked the attention and later said she wanted to make him her son’s “stepdad,” even though he was still in a relationship.
When the girlfriend found out, she suddenly became remorseful and said she only wanted “closure,” which felt inconsistent with how she was acting before.
I tried to extend grace as a Christian because we were both trying to leave behind past sinful behavior, but I did tell her clearly she should not repeat that behavior again.
This same pattern wasn’t new—back when she had just had her son in foster care, she was also involved with men like this and would bring her infant around an 18-year-old guy she was sleeping with instead of focusing on caring for her newborn.

Issues involving my husband
As we rebuilt our friendship, I started noticing repeated boundary concerns involving my husband:
When we visited her, her son became very attached to my husband and would climb on him and try to be held. I felt uncomfortable with how that dynamic was encouraged.
She would make comments like suggesting my husband could come over and fix things in her home.
The birthday candle incident:
She called me and asked me to put my husband on the phone. I did, and she asked if I could hear the conversation. We were all in the same car and it was on speakerphone, so yes—I could hear everything. She then asked him to buy birthday candles for me. After asking if I could hear, she still continued the request anyway. It felt less like a normal ask and more like testing boundaries or seeing how he would respond.
At her son’s birthday, she directly asked my husband in front of me to fix a bike. He said no because he didn’t know how. I offered instead, but I felt uncomfortable that she directed it toward him.
In the past (before I was married), I also saw her flirt with a boyfriend of mine over FaceTime and make sexual comments toward me.
She has also made comments about preferring attention from men and has openly said she enjoys male attention and has manipulated situations with men in relationships.

Other concerning comments
She has made colorist remarks about Black men and has fetishized them.
She would often say she “only liked dark-skinned Black men,” but after seeing how my husband treated me, she started making comments like “I think I’ll end up with a Spanish man” or “my best guy will probably be Spanish.”
At the same time, she would make subtle comments that felt like she was placing herself above me as a Black woman.

What happened after I confronted her
After the bike incident, I brought up multiple situations where I felt uncomfortable and like boundaries were being crossed. She became very defensive and said I was overreacting and that it was “just her culture” (she is Puerto Rican/white, my husband is Dominican, I am Black).
I explained that it wasn’t about culture or friendliness—it was the repeated pattern of directing attention toward my husband, ignoring my comfort, and dismissing concerns when I tried to address them.
She denied any wrongdoing and insisted nothing she did was inappropriate.
Two weeks after that conversation, she blocked me—but before doing so, she acted completely normal like everything was fine, which confused me even more.
My husband has been respectful the entire time and has even said he prefers not to be around her if it makes me uncomfortable.

So I’m asking:
AIO for feeling like she was repeatedly crossing boundaries with my husband, ignoring my concerns, and that I should have been more worried about her behavior than I initially was?