Family member: male/59/159lbs/5'5/active tobacco use, both smoking and non/no medicine. The problem is basically whole body. 

I honestly dont know were to begin, im looking for questions to ask and helping narrowing down everything. 

In 2023, he had to have shoulder surgery in the right side. Since then he has had problems with his nerves, it started with only being on that side. But now he says its his left side too, plus that right hand stays ice cold all year. He has trouble gripping things, holding on to things. His fingers on both sides with go numb. 

His legs are also giving him a problem. Ive noticed and hes told me. That he's starting to have trouble picking them up, and they have a stabbing sensation in them. I'll insert the pictures as well. There was this spot that formed on the inside of his right leg, and its only gotten bigger and now the two other spots on the outside of leg has joined and formed a bigger spot. But he showed me tonight, he is very self conscious. There is two new areas that have already come together in the front of his leg. He doesnt show, a lot of the time I have to make him. 

Then he's barely eating, and gaining weight. Yesterday he only ate, a biscuit with sausage split in half, and a salad. The biscuit was at 9 a.m and the salad was 9 p.m. He just want eat during the day, and when he finally eats something he'll eat just a little and say he's full. He's been trying to gain weight for so long, but ends up losing it. He stays around 150-159. 

If anyone can help me, help my father I would greatly appreciate. Im tired seeing him go through this. 

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