What label should I use?

So I considered myself bi/pan for the longest time. But I’m unsure now. I’m definitely not pan because my attraction to women vs men is very different. I know there are more specific labels, but for simplicity sake, would I fit more into the lesbian or bi category??

I have had more crushes on guys than girls, but I also am so comfortable with women that it’s hard for me to tell when I actually have a crush. I would let a lot of my gal friends do a lot of things in a platonic way that most people wouldn’t. My boundaries are more open for them.

Here’s the thing though.. I get repulsed every time I actually entertain the thought of dating a guy. I have also gotten repulsed every time a guy has started reciprocating my feelings. So, I get crushes and obsessions thinking I want to date them. But I really don’t actually want to.

I don’t get crushes on girls the same way as guys because I’m already so obsessed with my friends (who are almost all female). But I would be completely open to dating a girl and would very much like to.

It also doesn’t help that I’m mostly asexual and also aro-spec. Makes things really hard to tell.

TLDR: I get crushes on guys but don’t want to date them. I would love to date a girl, and I believe I get crushes but it’s hard to tell because of my strong platonic love for all my female friends. Would bi or lesbian be a better answer for me to give people when they ask?