I don’t know how to ask for visits help needed.

F 21 seeing someone M 20, we met online playing games and have been in the talking stage for a while… I’ve never online/long distance dated before and it’s hard.

I don’t want to be official till I know we can do visits and video calls. Problem is he is uncomfortable on camera (I do know what he looks like)

We had a conversation about visits and he said he would start planning at the end of this year, not a visit by the end of this year but a plan.

I left the convo at I thought that was too long but haven’t brought it up again in a few weeks.

Idk I guess I feel he is complacent in where we are at and the only one moving anything forward. I also feel bad asking these things as it’s out of his comfort zone, but I also feel I need these things and soon.

TLDR: So how do I bring up wanting visits and video calls without demanding or making some kind of ultimatum? It feels like I’d be making one as I don’t know if I could stay with him when I’m lacking something I need in a relationship.