AIO because nobody at my work respects me?

this feels like such a mental fuck please help. i (19f) work as a hostess in a restaurant at a member owned yacht club(yc) on lake michigan. i’ve been with the company going on 1 year now. i love what i do, the location i work in, the members, and my coworkers. well, all but one man.

in our restaurant, during the busy summer season we have some local employees, but most of our staff is J1s and H2Bs from a couple yacht clubs in florida. one of these seasonal people, is my manager, david. he’s been coming to manage at the yc for the past 6 summers. he can be pretty gnarly when he’s upset like calling people incompetent or swearing loudly for members to hear. the club has been trying to work with him through that.

compared to last summer, when he called me names, david has been pretty chill this year. he hasn’t lost his temper and has been nice to make conversation with.

recently, i got a second job as a hostess for a local hotel. my reasoning is because in the slow winter months, the yc doesn’t give good hours. (for my whole month off from college last year in dec/jan, i worked 8 hours total.) so, this summer i decided to get a second gig in order to have a guaranteed income for the winter. i informed david that i would only give him a max of 4 days (thurs-sunday) so he can have the 4th of july and weekends, which get hectic. he said he appreciated that but either way, the yc was screwed. (we only have 2 hostesses and were looking for 3, so me getting this job and lessening my time screws things up a bit.)

this now leads to the other hostess, bailey. she started working a little over a month after i had started, and stayed in the area during winter. in the slow months while i was at school, she was able to learn more about the yacht club, which i thought was great because it would only make our job easier. i’ve always seen her as an equal, and a friend. we alternate who keeps track of covers and who runs menus and brings people to their tables, especially because both of us hate running menus. and whenever people had questions about the floor plan, they’d always address both of us.

since the announcement of my second job, things have changed. suddenly, everyone goes to bailey about questions, and even david only ever talks to her when we’re both standing at the host station. then, just yesterday, a member had walked in with david and commented on bailey and i. the member complimented our smiles, and so bailey and i goofy grinned back at him. then all of a sudden, david’s back is in front of me and he’s blocking my view of the member and saying, “yes this is bailey she’s our lead hostess this year.” and then the conversation moves to bailey while im standing awkwardly behind david’s back. it felt like he quite literally blocked me from the convo. and everyday i work, david has been correcting little things about me. “make sure you do this, don’t forget that. hey do this do that.” which id understand if i was new to the company. but i do the things he’s telling me DAILY before he mentions it because it’s been routine for me for a year.

this is where i finally lost it. i was looking at our schedule in the scheduling app, and noticed something changed. suddenly, there was a new job in the filters titled “Lead Host” and bailey had officially had her name under that category. they made it an official job and nobody told me. when david initially said it, i thought it was some unofficial title. as someone who’s been with the company the longest out of bailey and i, it felt like a stab to the chest. i’m still not sure what the job title even means, or if it includes better pay, but i’m hurt. i wasn’t even considered. i’ve always seen bailey and i as equals, but now i feel like i’m beneath her. i’ve even noticed her starting to get bossy with me too and call me names. (she said everyone we work with probably thinks i’m autistic because i’m always so happy.) so, am i overreacting for being upset? should i let it go? what do i even do? i feel like im going insane so any opinions would help.

**also: read this if you want it’s just more annoying stuff-**
whenever david wants to inform the host stand on important info, i always hear it from bailey, david has stopped notifying me directly. this even includes MY SCHEDULE. since bailey was at the yc in the winter, she also picked up a second job in the fitness center as a desk worker there (funny she can have 2 jobs but not me lol). but with her schedule, she works 7-3 at the fitness center, and 4-9 at the restaurant. typically with hosts, we have one come in from 11-8, then the other comes in from 4-9, that way we have a host for lunch, 2 for dinner, and one for close. but, with baileys fitness job, she told me that david said to her i would be picking up the extra hour so she could go home early. which i would’ve originally be fine with if it was brought to me directly, but now i wanna say no because what the fuck.