Transandrophobia and silencing

I want to clarify, my rant is not about every trans woman! It’s a very small minority of people with frustrating attitudes, I rarely encounter it, but when I do! Ugh.

But there are SOME trans women that consider themselves the ultimate authority in trans issues. Telling trans men what words we can and can’t use about our OWN experiences. I was just told that as a man, it’s misogynistic of me to talk over women by a trans woman. The discussion was about trans MALE experiences!

I was called a “typical man” and they were talking like I’ve never been through anything! I was called sexist because I asserted that trans men shouldn’t be talked over. I was told “oh, don’t fall back on your agab!” When I brought up the discrimination trans men go through. It’s not me “falling back on my agab” it is my LIVED EXPERIENCE as a trans male!

I really hate to bring it up this way, but in every scenario. Every. One. Trans men are devalued and told to shut up. Before we transition, when we are seen as women, we are told to be quiet. We are talked over due to being seen as female. As a trans man, I am talked over again, because “you’re just a man. It’s sexist if you to talk over me!” Again. About trans male experiences.

I don’t declare myself a man and suddenly access a world of luxury and privilege. I am a teenager. A minor in the South. I have an estrogenized body. My rights to abortion and birth control are being limited and attacked. I’ve had my body talked about by men. My own dad commented on my ass when I was like eight years old. I’ve been considered stupid by boys because I was seen as a female.

Now as trans, I’ve been called things like “degenerate.” I’ve been told I’m delusioned. I can’t access gender affirming care legally. Trans women talk me to sit down and shut up. People bully me and talk about me behind my back.

I am oppressed both for being a trans man AND for having a female sex. No! I don’t accept that I have no voice or to speak or assert myself ever! You are not above me, nobody is my fucking superior.