AITA for not wanting to be part of my friend’s constant flirting with waiters?

NTA

I (29F) travel a lot with my best friend (29F), and ofc we eat out together. Recently, there’s been a few cases with a repeating pattern that bugging me.
Whenever we’re at a restaurant and a waiter shows even the slightest bit of attention or flirtation, she fully engages. What starts as a small interaction turns into ongoing flirting throughout the entire meal. The waiter starts coming back to our table more often than not, and the focus is basically all on her.
For me, this completely ruins the dining experience. I feel uncomfortable, awkward, and kind of like a third wheel in what’s supposed to be a simple meal. It’s not about me wanting attention, because actually prefer to just eat in peace and block any flirtatious attempts, which she totally laches onto.
To be clear she’s not actually interested in these guys beyond the moment, because it’s usually guys that she would never date. It’s just playful flirting during service, but it ends up taking over the whole situation.
I told her directly: “This makes me uncomfortable and affects my experience, and I didn’t consent to this situation.” Her response was basically that it’s not her problem, that it’s harmless, and she’s just having fun.
Now I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable here. I’m not trying to control her behavior, but I also don’t want to keep being put in these situations when we’re supposed to be spending time together.
AITA?

Posted Jun 8, 2026, 12:28 AM UTC

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