how can i fix my ingrowns?

hello! i am in my early 20s and ive noticed i get ingrown hairs on my coochie (sorry idk what i shouldn’t be afraid to say) but a few of them seem to have scarred over? what or HOW do you guys fix this? i have a “big” one that’s scarred over and no matter what i do it never seems to come out. i’m getting another smaller one and am really scared about it doing the same thing. i’m bigger and can’t really see too well down there but i can feel them and they genuinely drive me insane. anyone else ever wish they could see another angle on their body because they know they could get everything themselves? that’s how i feel 😭 anyone else in my world has a pimple/ingrown/splinter they come to me to fix it, but i can’t see and i am not about to ask someone else to take a look. any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated <3