How do I deal with my brother?

I (M28) feel like I’m at a crossroads in my relationship with my brother (M28).

I’m sick of him and the shit he just magically gets away with (I live at home with him, I lived away from home for six years before moving back in the fall to switch careers).

All he does on his spare time is drink or sit outside and do nothing. Friday’s, Saturday’s and Sunday’s are his worst days. He gets home, cracks a beer and deletes one every 15 minutes if feels like.

It’s not so much the drinking I care about, but rather his attitude and how he acts towards me. I’ll try to talk, he’ll think of something and just speak loudly saying “LISTEN” talking to me like I’m a little kid and then stating his opinion that makes zero sense because he is wasted.

He also usually drinks until 5-6 in the morning on weekends, goes to bed, wakes up at 10, bitches at me because I’m “too loud” trying to wake up at a normal time and make breakfast, then goes to bed, wakes up hungover and proceeds to get drunk again while not socializing with anyone.

The other night after our friend left he was asking me if I wanted to move out with him. I told him no as I prefer to be alone and didn’t think we’d get along based on how he lives his life at home. He then proceeded to lash out at me saying I could save more money and tried to call me an idiot.

These instances happen every weekend. There’s always something he feels I’m not doing that he doesn’t like and he lashes out. Meantime he’s the one who still asks my mom a question about everything like he’s a child, repeats questions I’ve already answered to me because he trying to make conversation and refuses to listen to a word I have to say.

I want to repair our relationship, but his refusal to listen is baffling. I’m sick of it. Is there anything I can do?

Posted Jun 8, 2026, 4:48 AM UTC

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