how do i know if God is telling me to give up my relationship?

i’m 23F my boyfriend is 26M. we have been together for almost 4 years. when we met, we weren’t saved. about a year into the relationship, my life totally changed when i met God and from the beginning of my faith journey, he has always been very supportive about everything. he never compromised the boundaries i set and continued to respect me, even though this dynamic was totally new for us.

i can see the ways God has totally transformed our relationship, but for about the last year i keep having this constant thought that maybe we shouldn’t be together. my walk is moving at a different pace than his, but that isn’t to say i don’t see fruit! which is why i’m so confused.

he is respectful, always the first to apologize, makes space for all my emotions, even the ugly ones. he puts me first, and always says he’s trying to build a future for us. the only thing that makes me question and have this thought to begin with is because he isn’t moving at the same pace as me, and it’s hard to see him struggling with things that i’ve long overcome, sometimes i feel like it pulls be backward. in the past we struggled because our dynamic felt more like me policing his faith (although we did have a really long conversation about this about 6 months ago and we’ve been doing good in this recently, i know it isn’t my job to save him, only the share the good news and plant a seed).

he does sometime initiate our bible studies and sometimes try to incorporate God more into our relationship, which i appreciate, but most times it does feel like more my responsibility. i just don’t know what to do. why doesn’t this thought ever go away??? i can’t tell if it’s me or not. besides this, our relationship is great. we both love each other so deeply, but i just don’t know how long God wants me to wait for him to be ready. sometimes i wonder if i’ve become his spiritual crutch if that makes sense.

any words anyone could share would be so helpful, i have no one to talk to about this, my family is not christian. i’m so confused, i’ve felt no peace.