My mother called me characterless because of socialising

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I recently turned 24 and I love hanging out on weekends. Cafe hoppings, movies, dates, basically socialising. I usually go out in the evenings and return after dinner.

My mother doesn't like it. She keeps questioning me. Why do you need to meet your friends every weekends, why do you need to see your ex colleagues if you resigned. No woman in our house comes home this late or wears such dark colour of lipsticks or tight clothes.

Today she asked me to find a PG so it wont matter when i come home or whom i call or whom i meet. I just went for movie around 6:30pm and I got home at around 10:30 pm. It was weekend. She called me characterless for coming home late. She said that I hang out with men and thats very shameful for a woman. No woman does this in our house.

I feel very slutshamed. My evening is ruined because i cried a lot. I feel so caged. I even admitted that coming home late was wrong but that doesnt mean I am characterless.

Its been happening a lot lately. Eventually I told her that I wont be explaining her further. If she think I am a characterless woman and so be it. But I feel so anxious.

Its always been like this. She never liked my friends. When I told her I train with my friends at the gym, she told me to change the timings for my gym so that I dont get under bad influence. A friend of mine was seen with her boyfriend in a cafe, so my mother told me to not be Friends with her because she is a male attention seeker.

There were so many friendships I lost because she didnt approve of it and now I am being shamed for socialising.