MY MOM IS MY REAL LIFE TITA BABY

You read that right.

Heard from a close family na may nagtampo daw na relatives kami nung malaman na nagsend out na kami ng invites and my mom messaged me rightaway “Ikaw naman sinabi ko na sayo imbitahin mo si ganito, nagtatampo tuloy!” and when I explained to her the list of people na dapat may part sa journey namin as a couple and that she wants me to invite 3 of them so that’ll cost me around 9-12k for them alone. Told her we cannot invite them due to capacity and prioritization of who’s on our list and heard from that close family na ang comment daw ng mom ko ay “Magpapakasal na lang ayaw pang gumastos. Sana hindi na lang nagpakasal!”

Take note, 100% of the costs are shouldered by us couple because we don’t come from financially able families. Our parents don’t have jobs, eventhough my mom still CAN but she chooses not to. Lahat iniasa nya sa akin teenager pa lang ako.

I’d actually appreciate a gesture like “anak, anong maitutulong namin sa kasal mo kahit hindi financially?” pero never once in the planning stage I heard that. Instead around 3x ko narinig na “kung hindi ako maganda sa kasal nyo hindi na lang ako pupunta.”

Lately, she had weaponized not attending my wedding twice already, pag hindi nya makuha ang gusto nya sa akin, on top of what I already provide.

And yes, I believe I am a product of a narcissit mom. :((