36 [M4F] #online #Colorado Just looking for an actual connection

Hey! Listen, I’m just me. I’m an artist, a traveler, a deep thinker, a lover, a servant, intelligent, passionate, and caring. I’m gentle and sweet - a submissive man. That doesn’t make me weak or a pushover. I’m an avid outdoorsman, a combat veteran. I end up leading in life quite often but it’s not my natural state. I’m best in a supportive role. Submission isn’t a kink for me, it’s who I am. I’m always best supporting. As I said, I do end up leading a lot but that’s because no one else will step up. It’s also why I like my alone time in remote wilderness.

I’m drawn to strong women and am at my best supporting them. I find “strong men” to be dumbasses most of the time - especially if they still believe in an alpha dynamic. We are where we are because of jackasses like that. Sorry, I digress.

What I am saying is that I’m a servant by nature. That plays out in my day to day life as I prefer to support rather than lead - as I’ve mentioned - but why I’m posting here is because it’s where my heart lays in a relationship. I know I’m one post among literal thousands. Most looking to get off with a kink dispenser among the myriad of people looking to make money off of them. That’s fine, no judgement. I’m just noting that I’m confident this post goes to the void. Which gives me some confidence to just riff.

Given what I’ve experienced here and what I know of “The Lifestyle” I’d say I’m an experienced sub. We can talk more about that, but the gist is that I know who I am and what I’m about. I’m not looking for a kink dispenser or someone figuring themselves out. Ideally. I’d find a FLR - a real one, not just I lead all the time except in the bedroom - but even more ideally a full TPE. Now, one of my biggest issues in life, let alone a romantic relationship, is being a burden. I have a hard time taking up space. So when I say TPE, it’s as much as the other person can take on.

Caveat: I feel for all the Doms with all these subs who just sit back and say it’s all on you. I’m literally here to make your life better and to serve in anyway I can. If that means giving over total control? Done. But it’s never requiring you to do it all while I just sit back. I mean to be a propellant and support to your life, not an anchor and a drag. That’s not submission, that’s a dead weight.

Anyway. I don’t know. Just looking for my person.

In the meantime, I’m open to play as well. Just casual stuff. Hoping for the real long term thing but not holding my breath.

So as far as intimacy, I love and need to give up control. I genuinely can’t keep an erection if the other person isn’t enjoying themself. My pleasure is truly derived from the other person’s pleasure. I actually get more pleasure from pleasing than I do with my own orgasms. So giving up control of orgasms is key - either hyper sexual or denial - but only having an orgasm when it pleases you.

Given that disposition, whatever your favorite kinks are will likely become mine because they please you. Like anal. It’s not something I’d do on my own but do enjoy doing in the context of a relationship. However, there are limits.

Limits. Like I don’t prefer feminization. I know who I am and that plays on identity for me. Some play in that area is one thing but bending gender plays on things I’d prefer not to breach. Same with race and other taboos of that nature. I also have hard limits for findom and tributes or any financial exchange. Nothing against those kinks either, they’re just not for me. When it comes to finances, if you need mine or if I’m paying you, it makes you an employee and changes the power dynamic for me. Again - all of that is just me. No shaming.

Ah well. There it is. Just typing away at the void. Hopefully you’ll see this.