What do you make of this + need advice on my last point
I thought I’d share this story on a relationship I got into that I shouldn’t have.
Background info: I’m F23 he was M20
Talking stage for 2 months
Relationship for 4 months
I’m going to list the red flags I noticed along the way which allowed me to understand he was so wrong for me
I told his friend I thought he was cute, to which he said “this is perfect because he’s been saying he’s been wanting somebody”
Told me he “loves melanin” and “really loves curly coarse hair/braids” and has only been with black girls. Mind you I have straight hair and not black.
One time I came over he said “um where are your braids?”
Before I’d leave his house he’d scan his entire house for strands of my hair and throw them away so his parents wouldn’t see them bc he couldn’t have girls over
One time I sent him a pic of my outfit and he texted back “it definitely fits lmao no but I like it” lmao???? Wtf…?!
I’d always plan our hangouts because he claimed he was a boring person who didn’t do fun activities
WHEN I CONFESSED TO HIM, A DAY INTO DATING, THAT I CHEATED IN MY LAST RELATIONSHIP, ALL HE SAID WAS, “YEAH SO DID I” ? I asked for more info, and basically he never told the girl he cheated on her and just broke up her. MIND YOU this was 2 months before we started talking. AND FINALLY I ASKED HIM, “WHY WOULD YOU NEVER TELL ME YOU JUST HAD A GIRLFRIEND 3 MONTHS AGO???” He SAID: “WELL BECAUSE YOU WOULDNT HAVE DATED ME” …….
I commuted an hour to him every single time. He never came to me.
He moved way too fast, very lovebomby with sexual related things and his immaturity really showed.
Very clingy in lowkey ways, he needed me to call him every day while I was on a trip.
I ran into my study abroad guy, friend, and hugged him on the road when I was hanging out with him, and my boyfriend was super uncomfortable and had no comment after when I told him how excited I was to see him.
What made me finally reflect more on all of this was him confusing a date he took his exgirlfriend on and thinking it was me.
Compatibility issues
Hated concerts live events I love them
Hated traveling I love it
Strict diet only meat and berries, sorry but I wanna share meals with my partner
I realized I wanted to spend my 20s free without an immature boy in my life.
Was realizing I found him very unattractive by the end of it.
I broke up with him. And when I brought up the points about the black comments, he just smirked and didn’t respond.
Yet was crying by the end of it an asking if I was doing to cherish the gifts he gave me. No they’re in the trash!
And he asked “you’re fine with never seeing me again? YES PISS OFF!
I walked away smiling and giggling.
When schools starts again I’ll see him there which sucks so lemme know if you have advice for that (it’s a very small college with ONE building)
Posted Jun 8, 2026, 4:41 PM UTC