30 [F4M] Looking for something real. Here's what that means to me.

I'm editing my post to add info based on some messages I've gotten. The core is the same. New post:

I'll just say what I mean because that's easier than being coy about it.

I want a family. Specifically, I want to stay home with kids. I don't want that because I think that's what women are supposed to do. My uncle stayed home while my aunt worked and that was the right call for their family. I want to do it because I think kids do better when someone has enough time and attention for them. I've seen what it looks like when they have that. I've seen what it looks like when they don't. This is a choice I'm making, not a role I'm filling.

That said, I want a partner who chose this the same way I did. I want someone present, who knows his own kids, who shows up without being managed into it. You don't want this because you think it's my place. You want this because it would help create a happy family.

About me since that's also relevant: I'm pretty calm. I'm a homebody. I read a lot, bake when I have people to eat my creations, and I've been slowly teaching myself to actually cook. I should've paid better attention to Grandma when she moved past brownies to gumbo. I play cozy games. I don't drink, no particular reason, just not my thing. I'm not religious. I'm not conservative.

I'd rather talk about shared dreams and values before sharing selfies. I'll give a general description for now. I'm white and have pale skin. I have light colored eyes with dark hair. I'm shortish. I don't care about your height or race. If you got this far and it sounds like something you want too: hi. Tell me something that matters to you.