I'm just at a loss at what to do

I'd love some advice or perspective. I've been going low contact, blocked my Nmom number on my phone. We had a phone conversation a few weeks ago which went as terrible for me as I expected. The best I came up with for ending the conversation was I didn't want to talk unless with a counselor. She basically laughed and said there is something deeply wrong with me since I don't want to talk to my mother and I am uncomfortable around her and don't want to be around her.

Since then she has left multiple messages, some I've listened to. I've decided I don't want to see a counselor with her. She's now texting my husband that she's worried about me and why don't we come over so we can get past this.

Talking with her just doesn't go well and seems pointless. But, she's being persistent so I'm thinking of calling her. I could tell her I changed my mind and don't want to talk with a counselor with her. Maybe tell her I don't want contact until she goes to a therapist? Put conditions on it? I've thought too about asking for an apology. I've thought about asking her to earn my trust since I don't trust her. I don't know what to do. Maybe just keep ignoring and hope she stops? It's such a mind mess. I'd love to have a loving mother but pretending that's what I have has really not gone well.