Comorbidities

Curious about how common, anecdotally, comorbidities exist alongside this addiction? My husband has finally, thankfully, been diagnosed with moderate -severe depressive disorder, attention cognitive disorder, and mild OCD. He is now on sertraline (Zoloft) and after only a month, I can literally see and feel a difference in his brain. We are separated, headed towards divorce (our state has a waiting period), because I am absolutely not living with this anymore, after 7 years of a fake "recovery".

But in our dealings now, I see such a difference. When we had difficult conversations, his eyes would literally dart and swirl around. I would have to tell him "STOP. FOCUS."

He is able to focus now and I can absolutely tell his brain is less chaotic. His eyes don't swirl and dart anymore. His entire presence is so much more calm.

He also says he does not have any urges to act out sexually now. He knows that's a side affect of the med and that he shouldn't feel a false sense of security within himself. He knows he still isn't a safe person and has to do work on himself, but he's thankful for the calm headspace to be able to do the hard work now.

(To be totally honest with y'all, I am so mad at him that he's taking this seriously now, after 13 years of neglecting/ignoring/emotionally abusing me and 7 years of lying through/faking a "recovery". I am so resentful. Now that I'm leaving, now that I'm actually done with this life, he does the work now. And I am left with having to do the gut wrenching work for *my* recovery that *his* addiction has saddled me with.)

Now I have no delusions, this is not a magic pill. But it really is amazing how much of a difference I see in him. (If he's not having any urges now, then I am sure he's having the sexual side effects of sertraline...whether that's ED or whatever. I do think his brain absolutely needs the med, *and* I think he needed the hypersexuality calmed down to give him the headspace to do the work. Besides the med, he is back in therapy with a CSAT (actually a PSAP, which is a pastoral CSAT), back in a support group, working with a mentor, doing to Dare2Connect, journaling like a man possessed, coming to me to have real conversations for the first time really, and holding space for my pain.

For the very first time, he seems to have *real* empathy for me. It seems the medication is allowing him to feel real emotions for the first time ever, and not numbing his emotions. And the medicine is helping him to be able to sit uncomfortably with those feelings without acting out *and* see my feelings too and have compassion for me.

Wondering if anyone else has seen this happen or experienced this?