I just really need to vent

My wife (mtf) hasn’t spoken to her mother in over a year. She cries about it often, and has even gotten close to hurting herself or worse because she feels lonely and like she doesn’t have a family. I’ve tried to stay out of it, because I’ve felt like it’s her business whether she talks to her mom or not. But after so long of her being upset and hurting, I couldn’t just sit back anymore and I reached out to her mom. I told her mom that basically my wife needs her mom even if she won’t say it, and that she’s struggling with her mental health and self harm over it. The incubator refused to use correct pronouns and calling her “him” and using her dead name. And said that the mental health issues are due to her “sinning” and trying to live as a woman. Couldn’t possible be because her mother won’t accept her, right? I’m sad and worried for my wife because I know how much this affects her. Also I’m infertile, and I would be so grateful for the chance to be a mother even if my kid said they were a purple polka dotted giraffe. But you have people out here disowning their kid for being trans and other petty crap. Like “omg waaaaah! My kid isn’t the right kind of kid!” Boo fucking hoo and get over yourself. That is all.