Not feeling prioritized. Does this mean it's not a match?

Me and this guy i'm seeing really operate at different speeds. I do everything fast, directly, and to the point.

He frequently withdraws, leaves me hanging, uncollaborative. But in some ways finds me special? It's very weird.

At any rate, there's been several times I went down to the depths of the most vulnerable aspect of myself. And usually, in this most vulernable place if the person is able to meet your needs directly and effciently it really can come down to being a keeper or not. Then I felt infantlized, like he's creating an arms length distance while you slowly people my emotional needs... But only because *I* need it, not because it's something he wants to do.

All the energy he gives me makes me feel like an option to him, and I keep holding on in some way to see if I can process it out if, become more independant etc. etc. I don't want to let this go but I feel and fear that I must... It's hard.

Any random advice?