i (20f) don’t know how to deal with the bumps in my relationship with (21m)

i’m just going to get right into this, please keep some nuance in mind as neither i or my boyfriend are evil/toxic people, i just need some guidance to navigate my feelings because i don’t fully understand them myself and i can’t deal with them.

i wouldn’t say that i have anger issues or anything, i am usually a very laidback or grounded person, but unfortunately i am not completely immune to frustration and although i’m able to get over most things easily. there are a lot of small things that tick me off pretty quickly and it always has to do with the people around me and their behaviour. especially in my relationship with my boyfriend.

for a beginning example, my boyfriend has a king bed which could fit probably four people and still give room between them, you’d think anyways. because somehow, almost every time in his bed, i am nearly on the edge of it, lacking any pillow or head support, because he just has to be right next to me.

another example, doing literally every single little thing for me, treating me like a child basically. like sure, i enjoy having things done for me once in a while, but i’ll walk into a room with an apple and he will ask me if i want it cut up, and he literally will do it. i will be carrying a dirty dish, he will take it and wash it for me. and i’m sure people would say that’s super kind and no other guy would treat me that way, and i can fully see that perspective becauss it is extremely kind and selfless…but also it gets to a point. like does he see me as incapable?? or then i’m thinking also like dude, stand tf up like?? 😭😭

and another example, there’s too many times i’ve had to help him with something because he somehow can’t figure it out on his own, or i witness him do something so unfathomable that i just let him deal with it on his own because wtf. one time, it was not being able to lock my bedroom door because it would not lock unless you turned it immediately after closing, shouldn’t be that hard to figure out but idk that’s just me. sometimes it’s asking me where something is, what something is, when, who, why, and the answer will be right there in front of both of us. i get it, i make the same mistakes but like omg pls. other times it’s somehow managing to drop a pair of scissors in a pool simply because he was walking past it with them in his hand.

of course i understand that people make mistakes, i’ve made plenty of mistakes like his and we all will continue to do so forever but when it’s happening so consistently, so obviously, especially when i purposely try not to bother him in these same ways, it’s soooo frustrating.

it also doesn’t help that any time we have had an issue, it’s been because i’ve been unhappy about something that he is doing, and he takes it so personally and deeply that he gets upset and holds onto it. i don’t want to hurt him that way, but i also need some flexibility without feeling like i’m breaking his heart every time i just need space or just need understanding. but maybe i am overreacting and just need to get my ego in check, you tell me.

TL:DR, i (20f) get frustrated very easily with my boyfriend (21m) and don’t know how to address it.