Our first placement was just moved and I’m devastated.

We’ve had our first permanent placement for almost a month. A 3 year old girl who became best friends with my bio daughter. They bathed together. They slept together. They loved each other. She called us mommy and daddy. We had some struggles with her (mainly volume and respect), but she was a really great kid.

The family who is fostering her little brother said they were able to take her in. They only speak Spanish, which is very concerning to me and bio mom, but everyone on her case, including the judge, is telling us it’s fine. She loves her brother and has issues whenever she sees baby boys while we are out. It’s clear he’s the most important person in her life. During court I said I didn’t know the right answer. She gets to be with her brother, but at the cost of living with people that don’t speak her language.

We had the hearing today for her to transition to their house. I agreed that if it’s happening that it should happen fairly quickly rather than being drawn out. They decided today would be the day. They asked me how fast I could get her things ready. I asked if I could have at least a couple hours to say goodbye and explain to her what’s happening. 30 minutes after transport was supposed to bring her back from daycare I was told they aren’t bringing her and they’re sending someone for her things.

Her things are gone now. My husband and I are distraught. My daughter is confused. I’m so hurt and angry and scared for her.

Is this what I have to look forward to? Is this normal? How is this what’s best for her?