I took my 13 year old daughter’s phone and she took it back without me knowing and then acted like I was dumb when I caught her in the lie.

My daughter went looking for her phone when I told her I wasn’t sure when she would be able to get it back. She ended up searching very extensively because it was hid in a place that wouldn’t be easily found and took it without me knowing.

When I asked her why she had her phone when I told her she couldn’t have it, she lied and said her dad let her have it just for the day. I trusted her 100% completely and I didn’t want to go against my husband so I thought it’s fine for her to have it for the day. I found out later that her dad didn’t let her have it. Then, she kind of talked down to me saying like “you seriously believe that? Of course he let me have it. Shouldn’t you as a mom know that?”

Something similar today happened when I told her she can’t have her sisters tablet. She lied and said her sister said she could play on it when her sister didn’t. I know I remember telling her this morning, “you can’t have this tablet.” Well she said today, “Bro you NEVER said that” and doubled down saying it numerous times when she went to go get her sisters tablet. I know I told her this.

My child’s father has done similar things to me when I found out he was cheating saying things like I was crazy and questioning my reality. Am I overreacting? She knows I have a bad memory from trauma so I feel like she’s using that against me. Has anyone else been through something similar?