I started sleeping with a married man and now I don’t know how to end things.

He is 50, I am 26. This has been going on for about 4 years.

I met him in the nightlife scene. He told me he was in an open relationship. Later I even met his wife, and she confirmed they had an “open” arrangement. She also said their marriage was mostly practical, basically to help him get residency in the country, which he couldn’t obtain otherwise.

From what I’ve seen and heard, their relationship was never really about love. He cheated on her, and he was very open about that. So I didn’t go into this thinking it was some pure relationship, I knew it was messy from the start.

We started sleeping together and things escalated quickly. He got emotionally attached and eventually said he wanted to leave his wife for me.

I’m not going to pretend I’m innocent in all of this either, I used the situation to move to another country and build my life. He knew that.

After he actually left his wife, everything blew up: drama, accusations, legal/financial chaos, and he ended up losing stability, his career, and basically his normal life. Now he’s in another country with almost nothing and depends on his family.

I’ve moved on with my life, I built my own business, I’m independent, and I’m doing fine. But he’s still somehow in the background of my life.

The problem is I don’t feel the same anymore. The age gap feels much bigger now, we’re in completely different stages of life, and I’m starting to disconnect and look at people my own age. At the same time, I feel guilty because he supported me and went through a lot because of this whole situation.

I just don’t know how to end it properly. Without drama, without guilt, and without destroying someone completely.

What do you even do in a situation like this?