My [27M] partner [25F] having physical avoidance issues from trauma

TLDR: physical avoidance issues with my partner after moving in with each other from past trauma. How to help her and be a good partner?

My girlfriend and I just recently moved in together and things have seemed rocky since.

The last few months, we were only having sex about once a month. I would attempt to initiate but she was feeling under the weather or exhausted from work. Understandable. Sex does not make or break a relationship for me.

We officially moved in together and I brought up in conversation how we had not had sex in a bit and our physical touch has dissipated a good bit. She seemed irritated from constant physical touch through handholding or hugging.

The next day, she had a pretty bad breakdown saying how this happened with her last relationship and we almost separated but I’m a patient person and want to help as much as I can. I dug a bit to see why exactly the touch and everything went away and stating it’s from physical trauma in college. Her previous relationship she left because of multiple reasons of him getting angry about the physical touch going away but also the guilt of her feeling like she was not doing enough as a partner.

She said she tried therapy in the past but it did not do much. I don’t know exactly how long or how much exposure she really had to therapy.

I did some googling into physical avoidance and how to help and I’ve tried to be patient and if I do want to give her a kiss before work or bed, I’ll ask. Same thing with hugging or even hand holding for a second. If the answer is yes, awesome. If the answer is no, I completely understand. Good communication helps!

Last night, she was upset again just overthinking the situation and I don’t want her to feel like she’s being a bad partner. The trauma isn’t her fault and I don’t want her to beat herself up over it.

Just curious as to the steps I could take to make her feel more comfortable and maybe find some balance to help.

Thanks!