How are we doing financially? Joint income for the last 8 months.
I am a 32 yr old teacher, husband is 35 painter/decorater (self employed).
I was abroad for a few year in S.E Asia and we did a long distance relationship. Moved back to get married, found the transition tough but its better for my son who wanted to be near family again and in a diverse school.
I found a teaching job at a private school in central London and earn 58k gross. Husband is on around 45k but it goes up and down. Business is good at the moment but he is physically tired.
Between us after my hefty teachers pension (defined benefit), plan 2 student loan, tax and NI we take home between 5700-6k net monthly.
As his clients are around essex and family is on essex, i commute 5 days a week. 1 hour one way, door to door. It is exhausting but i like my school, my timetable is chill and my school holidays are long.
Break down of budget.
Rent 1375 2 bed house - buying 1st home this summer 3 bed semi, 1500 per month mortgage.
Council tax 170
Gas and electric 110 (will likely go up after the move)
Car insurance on 2 cars, both cash. Mine is a cheap run around for wknds and hokidays. 110
Phones (3 in total) 130. Husband will negotiate sim only when contract comes to an end soon.
Gym 70 for both
Credit card 250 (total debt 7k after wedding - 0% interest)
Food 400
Train Travel 500 on a full month (6 months of the year, 300 4 months of the year).
Petrol 250
Childs lunch/travel 100
Music lessons 100
Insurance products (life, critial illness, private healthcare etc) 100
Subscriptions 25
Car tax 40
Fixed costs 3355 (say 3400).
Surplus - 2k.
150 into vanguard for his planned retirement
50 into childs ISA.
36k saved for 10% deposit
10k in vanguard currently
We have been using the surplus to save up for a deposit but now we are practically there is there anything you would do differently?
Posted Jun 10, 2026, 4:31 PM UTC