How do I know if it’s okay to ask for a second date?

I (F) get ghosted constantly. Usually it’s “slow ghosting”, where they draw it out over a week, slowly responding less and less.

The problem is, I don’t want to ask for a second date immediately after the first one, but I also feel like if I’m 3 days into the process, then I’m going to come across as clueless and desperate if I ask. So… when am I supposed to…?

I do still get ghosted even when the guy asks about a second date, but I guess I’m hoping that by initiating it myself, I might actually have a second date before they disappear 😵‍💫