What conscious effort are you putting into your marriage to make it work.

43M married to 46F. Have been together for 20 years.

I have 3 married friends who have separated, others are living together for the sake of their kids which is also very stressful (Living with someone and yet you no longer love each other).

The top 5 things i do to ensure my marriage works is:

a) I apologize when i wrong her (saying sorry works magic)

b) I take time to listen to her when she is speaking her heart (though i zone out after 10 minutes)

c) I support her financially (When i make some good money, i always deposit some to her bank account). she once helped me a lot when i was down.

d) Daily intimacy (Helps a lot cos without it, she becomes cranky)

e) During my morning devotion, i pray for her that our lives will be full of peace, love, unity.

What steps are you actively taking to have a successful marriage?