Giving up hope on n-mom

So, for context I’m Indian, and my n-mom has undergone a drastic shift in her political views over the last decade, leaning hard right and one could even say she’s red pilled.

But i always thought she had prioritised decency over religious or caste-based differences, as I have friends from different backgrounds, my best friends are christians and (so called ) lower caste based, but she has never even remotely ever cared about my friend choices from childhood till now (mid twenties)

I was sort of narrating their experiences of discrimination today at the dinner table, and she got upset that i was in agreement with my friend on her experiences that yes, the people who discriminated against her (from my religion) were in the wrong. She was upset at why would i admit that to my friend?!

And she tried to justify and failed miserably at other instances of discrimination i had witnessed happen to my friends. Honestly I am so shocked right now and feel so empty. I had believed that no matter how she behaved with me i thought she had some sense in her.

She had always been a feminist when i was growing up talking about financial independence, the importance of education, but since her right wing turn she says things like, women who work and don’t take care of their children are bad mothers, women these days have gone ‘mad’, they just want alimony divorce etc etc. It’s maddening and heartbreaking.

Yeah, after many political debates later I realised i should officially give up on my n mother. She tries to ruffle my feathers SO HARD. I want to, but find it so difficult to grey rock. I want to go abroad to a country where such bullshit doesn’t exist.