My[33/F] mom[63/F] is obsessed with me finding a man and having kids and she’s being draining.

It’s seems like once or twice every week, my mom badgers me about how I[33/F] am not interested in a few guys that she wants me to talk to. With one guy, I think she only wants me to be with him because of his degrees. I was not attracted to the guy and I didn’t even find his personality interesting. It’s always men men men…I’m sick of it. 

Like each time a week, my mom would always go on rants about how I need to give every man that tries to talk to me a chance. She doesn’t care what type of man just as long as I get picked. She talks about how I should lower my standards and stop going after men who want to work out, want to put in effort into their hygiene and looks…she just thinks I should settle for men I’m not attracted to (because she’s so quick to bash handsome men and call them cheaters/say they are taken/horrible people, but she ignores that even homely men can do these things too).

I usually point out how cruel some men can be to women they consider plus sized and ugly but she doesn’t care. She has this double standard that men can be shallow and choosey but not women.

I also talked about how I’m not interested in kids and I’m childfree and she’s upset about this too. This is why I resent my family…because they forced all their goals on me since I was a kid.

These sounds like femcel/pick me rants and they are draining me mentally.

I will admit that these rants that I keep hearing are getting me to feel insecure myself because of how I am usually never attracted to the type of guys that show me interest and the well off men that I’m attracted to usually never show me interest.. The types of guys I attract are usually always older than me (or younger…both 10+) and they are usually dusties. It’s like most of the well off guys are taken. 

Like I want to just stop thinking about dating for once and accept the fact that I’ll probably be single for a long time...because I refuse to even sleep with guys that I am not attracted to nor interested in.