I’m asocial but my mother worries too much, what do I do?[need a bunch of advice/abuse warning]

I’m asocial but my mother worries too much, what do I do?[need a bunch of advice/abuse warning]

As the title says, I’m Asocial, I don’t like people; it’s easier for them to frustrate me than to actually make anything with them worthwhile so I’ll never force an interaction. Even if I didn’t have this problem I’d still wouldn’t want to have to maintain relationships like keeping up and stuff.

This does not mean I can’t socialize or have no social skills, I’ve talked to people before, Ive laughed with them, and Ive made friends with them. Not to mention Ive done entire presentations by myself at school by choice and I spoke in front of the whole class by myself and presented by myself. I don’t add people I know on social media either, and in the rare times I do share numbers with people (only twice btw) we’ve only talked over messages; its just that for the reasons above, I just don’t wanna force interactions nor do I want to have the responsibility for maintaining relationships.

With that out of the way, since it’s summer now and school is over, I have a bunch of time on my hands and I was planning on getting through the bunch of unplayed games in my Steam library. I built my pc in August or September so right when school started meaning that this is my first summer that I can use my pc without having any schooling to think about.

Unfortunately, all my mom sees is me eating and sleeping all day and she says it isn’t normal. I wake up really late at like 11:00 or 11:30 in the morning and sometimes I take a midday nap too at maybe 4 or 5 all the way to dinner or to 8 (I don’t eat dinner often) which is when I shower. I haven’t told her that it’s because I stay up like everyday, seriously, during the school year I consistently stayed up until 5 in the morning and woke up at 8 for school which is why I take my midday naps. But I don’t plan on telling her anytime soon because I don’t know what’ll happen if I do. She might freak out for all I know.

My mom thinks that kids my age should be outside and active or hanging out with friends and she gets extremely concerned that I’m doing none of that, I live in California, it’s summer, and it’s hot. She says I don’t have friends, I tell her that I do and that I just don’t interact with them outside of school, she tells me that I need to find something to do with my time like getting a job or volunteering because she doesn’t like seeing me at home in my room all the time.

Ive looked at volunteering already and I don’t think I can force myself to have the same kind of community building or passion for anything like normal volunteers do, I’m also not really interested in any of those positions. I haven’t seriously looked into getting a job yet, partly because I’m kind of scared of the job market right now and because it’s a little difficult finding a place that’s willing to take a 16 year old, are nearby, can train me and has a part time position. My mom also won’t let me work certain jobs like a dishwasher job for example because she thinks the people that do those jobs are pretty much bums and since I can’t read her mind I’m going to have to run every possible job through her first after running it through me and making sure I’m ok with it as well.

It’s not my decision but my mom is also planning for us to be out of city for a week at the end of June and I just don’t know if that’s practical for me to get a summer job and then just call it off for a week.

Heres where the problems go up a couple notches, let me get this out of the way but I’m pretty that my mom always had trouble with stress and regulating her emotions, I know she was a single mom raising an only child but after certain point I just can’t excuse her abuse. She gets so angry sometimes and she always yells, it gets so tiring when I make a mistake while driving and she yells at me and she continues to yell at me and I make more mistakes because of it, we argue a lot and she always yells and I’m forced to take a level head because if I show any back it’ll get called disrespect, it gets so tiring when I can’t reciprocate the same energy she gives me and she can’t speak like an adult when we argue.

She slaps me too, when I was younger it was worse; she’d buy those math textbooks from Costco because she wanted me to be better at math but when I didn’t understand it she’d get frustrated and beat me with rulers and sticks, she once hit me so hard with the stick of the American flag that it broke. And she pretty much punched me too, she would ball up her fist and hit the temples of my head with her knuckles like she was knocking on a door but she’d do it hard. I digress but in today’s time she still gets angry enough to slap me across the head and back, I once slept until 12 in the morning and she got so angry that she just started slapping me, when she caught me sleeping after dinner to 9, she also started slapping me and yelling and banging on doors. Ive asked her why shes so angry and she blames in on hormones, shes admitted that I’m patient with her and I’m calm (not like I have a choice), and strangely enough shes never slapped me or put her hands on me while I’m driving which makes me wonder if she can really control her self when she wants to.

Shes been complaining that she worries so much about the fact that I stay home all day and the fact I’m not doing anything that she says shes been losing sleep. She says that nothing makes her happy and that she’s tired all the time. She might have depression and I tell her to get a therapist but she pretty much said it would go away if I just got a job or started hanging out with people or volunteered or did anything.

Basically in clear cut terms on what I’m asking for in terms of advice is:
How to get a job, your experiences or how you got your jobs, your experience with abuse or what I should do, where to go from here and I also appreciate any comments on what you think. Basically any advice is good, thanks in advance and for reading till the end

As the title says, I’m Asocial, I don’t like people; it’s easier for them to frustrate me than to actually make anything with them worthwhile so I’ll never force an interaction. Even if I didn’t have this problem I’d still wouldn’t want to have to maintain relationships like keeping up and stuff.

This does not mean I can’t socialize or have no social skills, I’ve talked to people before, Ive laughed with them, and Ive made friends with them. Not to mention Ive done entire presentations by myself at school by choice and I spoke in front of the whole class by myself and presented by myself. I don’t add people I know on social media either, and in the rare times I do share numbers with people (only twice btw) we’ve only talked over messages; its just that for the reasons above, I just don’t wanna force interactions nor do I want to have the responsibility for maintaining relationships.

With that out of the way, since it’s summer now and school is over, I have a bunch of time on my hands and I was planning on getting through the bunch of unplayed games in my Steam library. I built my pc in August or September so right when school started meaning that this is my first summer that I can use my pc without having any schooling to think about.

Unfortunately, all my mom sees is me eating and sleeping all day and she says it isn’t normal. I wake up really late at like 11:00 or 11:30 in the morning and sometimes I take a midday nap too at maybe 4 or 5 all the way to dinner or to 8 (I don’t eat dinner often) which is when I shower. I haven’t told her that it’s because I stay up like everyday, seriously, during the school year I consistently stayed up until 5 in the morning and woke up at 8 for school which is why I take my midday naps. But I don’t plan on telling her anytime soon because I don’t know what’ll happen if I do. She might freak out for all I know.

My mom thinks that kids my age should be outside and active or hanging out with friends and she gets extremely concerned that I’m doing none of that, I live in California, it’s summer, and it’s hot. She says I don’t have friends, I tell her that I do and that I just don’t interact with them outside of school, she tells me that I need to find something to do with my time like getting a job or volunteering because she doesn’t like seeing me at home in my room all the time.

Ive looked at volunteering already and I don’t think I can force myself to have the same kind of community building or passion for anything like normal volunteers do, I’m also not really interested in any of those positions. I haven’t seriously looked into getting a job yet, partly because I’m kind of scared of the job market right now and because it’s a little difficult finding a place that’s willing to take a 16 year old, are nearby, can train me and has a part time position. My mom also won’t let me work certain jobs like a dishwasher job for example because she thinks the people that do those jobs are pretty much bums and since I can’t read her mind I’m going to have to run every possible job through her first after running it through me and making sure I’m ok with it as well.

It’s not my decision but my mom is also planning for us to be out of city for a week at the end of June and I just don’t know if that’s practical for me to get a summer job and then just call it off for a week.

Heres where the problems go up a couple notches, let me get this out of the way but I’m pretty that my mom always had trouble with stress and regulating her emotions, I know she was a single mom raising an only child but after certain point I just can’t excuse her abuse. She gets so angry sometimes and she always yells, it gets so tiring when I make a mistake while driving and she yells at me and she continues to yell at me and I make more mistakes because of it, we argue a lot and she always yells and I’m forced to take a level head because if I show any back it’ll get called disrespect, it gets so tiring when I can’t reciprocate the same energy she gives me and she can’t speak like an adult when we argue.

She slaps me too, when I was younger it was worse; she’d buy those math textbooks from Costco because she wanted me to be better at math but when I didn’t understand it she’d get frustrated and beat me with rulers and sticks, she once hit me so hard with the stick of the American flag that it broke. And she pretty much punched me too, she would ball up her fist and hit the temples of my head with her knuckles like she was knocking on a door but she’d do it hard. I digress but in today’s time she still gets angry enough to slap me across the head and back, I once slept until 12 in the morning and she got so angry that she just started slapping me, when she caught me sleeping after dinner to 9, she also started slapping me and yelling and banging on doors. Ive asked her why shes so angry and she blames in on hormones, shes admitted that I’m patient with her and I’m calm (not like I have a choice), and strangely enough shes never slapped me or put her hands on me while I’m driving which makes me wonder if she can really control her self when she wants to.

Shes been complaining that she worries so much about the fact that I stay home all day and the fact I’m not doing anything that she says shes been losing sleep. She says that nothing makes her happy and that she’s tired all the time. She might have depression and I tell her to get a therapist but she pretty much said it would go away if I just got a job or started hanging out with people or volunteered or did anything.

Basically in clear cut terms on what I’m asking for in terms of advice is:
How to get a job, your experiences or how you got your jobs, your experience with abuse or what I should do, where to go from here and I also appreciate any comments on what you think. Basically any advice is good, thanks in advance and for reading till the end.