Do I date a girl that has herpes?

I (24M) have been seeing a girl i really like. We connect and both see it becoming more serious/long term. The other day she told me that she tested positive for HSV1. She has never had an outbreak that she is aware of. She told me that the dr told her it isn’t a huge deal but it is something she should still mention to a non-casual partner, so she did. She does not know where she has it in her body. She also does not know if she is asymptomatic. She told me about the transmission rates for both oral and genital HSV1. She even said that she would prefer it be genital because it is a lot harder to transmit than oral. lol.

Anyways, i am not sure how i feel about this. Is this something i should be worried about?
I mean millions of people get cold sores. The girl im seeing said both her parents have cold sores as well. So it’s nothing new or scary to her really. It was a casual convo- relaxed. She just said she doesn’t want to pass it to me and it become something more distressing or serious down the line. I appreciate her mentioning it to me. I’ve never had anyone intentionally mention having the “cold sore virus” so it is throwing me off.

Do i still date her? Is this something I should be worried about? I really don’t know as this is something ive never encountered before since no one has ever said anything to me about their status like this. I’ve never had to consider or think about this before. Her mentioning it to me makes it feel like it is a big deal.

What do you think?

Posted Jun 11, 2026, 2:29 AM UTC

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